"What the Bible Says about Marriage and Sex." This is the name of the book that has taken me 2 months to get half way through. Not because it's not a great book but because it's merely been a sleep aid for me. The amount of medicine I have to take to even make me drowsy is unreal. A good book and sometimes even a nice bubble bath seem to help out!
This is a book that I absolutely would recommend. It hits several points on marriage based on the book, "Song of Songs." The guy does an excellent job giving you a step by step through the book. However, we are not all going to agree on everything!
The title may have caught you off guard, huh? I love one of the points it makes about that particular subject: The world has made sex look to be a shameful act when it's one of God's beautiful creations.
Don't worry, it caught me off guard too and my father in law really didn't know what to think about it! I took it with me everyday to radiation to give myself something to do while I waited. After getting looks of concern from him for several days I finally decided to break the ice... "Want to read this while you wait? It's all about sex!" I asked him. "Oh no!" Was his immediate response!
Moving on past the title... One thing this book mentioned was going periods of time without your spouse. The guy said it was great. He was going with the "distance makes your heart grow fonder" affect... After reading this, I thought my trip to Seattle was now a fabulous idea.
I was just talking with my brother this morning about temptation and what we're supposed to do with it as christians. God says we are supposed to flee! Being a whole country apart from your spouse sets you up for a boat load of temptation. I packed my bags and ran toward it. Resisting the Devil?? No, the exact opposite. I'm sorry, Timmy. I'm a total hypocrite by going on this trip without Harrison in the first place!
God says a number of things about marriage in the bible. One thing He says is, "Man shall leave his mother and father and cling to his wife." Thank you honey, for vowing to me on our wedding day that you would follow through with this. You certainly have! But I also vowed to you that I would be your helpmate. It's not very helpful for you to cling to me while I'm across the country. I owe you an apology as well!
Now I'm not saying that things won't be great once I get home. I'm sure it will be a heartfelt embrace but things will quickly go right back to the way they were. We will fall right back into our everyday routine and it will be like I never left. So what do we do the next time we get into a fuss? Pack our bags and leave for a while? (I'm not saying I'm having marital issues, I'm saying I have come to understand that this would not be the solution to one.) No, God days we're supposed to come together during hard times. I love that Harrison acts that out, taking that verse totally to heart, every time we do get in a little tizzy. My immediate reaction is to leave the room but after a while, he comes in after me and pulls as tight as he can into his embrace. Just like God calls us to do.
So I'm sorry to the author of that book, I disagree with you... I do not think that distance is healthy for a marriage.
You are so right!
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